Wouldn’t skip a Sunday mass in such an amazing place. Truly amazing.

Wouldn’t skip a Sunday mass in such an amazing place. Truly amazing.

One of very few urologists I really respect :)

One of very few urologists I really respect :)

Good morning from the other side of the world! Breakfast with the man is pure bliss…

Good morning from the other side of the world! Breakfast with the man is pure bliss…

#truth #justsaying

#truth #justsaying

A constant reminder to be thankful for all the blessings in life, even when the going gets tough…

A constant reminder to be thankful for all the blessings in life, even when the going gets tough…

The Haters Gonna Hate, Hate, Hate, Hate, Hate

I stay out too late
 Got nothing in my brain
 That’s what people say, mmm-mmm
 That’s what people say, mmm-mmm

 I go on to many dates [chuckle]
 But I can’t make ‘em stay
 At least that’s what people say, mmm-mmm
 That’s what people say, mmm-mmm

 But I keep cruising
 Can’t stop, won’t stop moving
 It’s like I got this music
 In my mind
 Saying, “It’s gonna be alright.”

 ’Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
 And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
 Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
 I shake it off, I shake it off
 Heart-breakers gonna break, break, break, break, break
 And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake, fake, fake
 Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
 I shake it off, I shake it off

 I never miss a beat
 I’m lightning on my feet
 And that’s what they don’t see, mmm-mmm
 that’s what they don’t see, mmm-mmm

 I’m dancing on my own (dancing on my own)
 I make the moves up as I go (moves up as I go)
 And that’s what they don’t know, mmm-mmm
 that’s what they don’t know, mmm-mmm

 But I keep cruising
 Can’t stop, won’t stop grooving
 It’s like I got this music
 In my mind
 Saying, “It’s gonna be alright.”

 ’Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
 And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
 Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
 I shake it off, I shake it off
 Heart-breakers gonna break, break, break, break, break
 And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake, fake, fake
 Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
 I shake it off, I shake it off

 Shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off

 Hey, hey, hey
 Just think while you’ve been getting down and out about the liars and the dirty, dirty cheats of the world,
 You could’ve been getting down to this sick beat.

 My ex-man brought his new girlfriend
 She’s like “Oh, my god!” but I’m just gonna shake.
 And to the fella over there with the hella good hair
 Won’t you come on over, baby? We can shake, shake, shake

 Yeah ohhh

 ’Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
 And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate (haters gonna hate)
 I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
 I shake it off, I shake it off
 Heart-breakers gonna break, break, break, break, break (mmmm)
 And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake, fake, fake (and fake, and fake, and fake)
 Baby, I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
 I shake it off, I shake it off

 Shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off

 Shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off

 Shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off (you’ve got to),
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off,
 I, I, I shake it off, I shake it off

A little sneak peek on Gotham!

Weekly Instagram Diary

Another weekly round-up of my life through Instagram! Enjoy!

My daddy the bullying victim :)

Gorgeous view from Jumbo Seafood, East Coast Park, Singapore

Coolest grandpa on a rainy Osaka morning

Japanese dinner for two with the man

Night stroll around Clarke Quay with Mr Lee

Breathtaking view from our room. W Hotel Sentosa Cove, Singapore

Amazing leader, great human being, brilliant mind. Mr Lee Kuan Yew

Time to fly back to reality. Singapore, here I come!

My favorite place for amazing night view. 1Altitude, Singapore

Breakfast of a champion! W Hotel Sentosa Cove, Singapore

Cute bakery that makes you travel to Paris just from the ambiance. Sophie Bakery, Singapore

Weekly flower bouquet from my favorite doctor

Monday morning drink by the pool? Oh YES! W Hotel Sentosa Cove, Singapore

Upcoming Prostate Cancer conference. Super excited!

One of my fave urologists, EVER! Dr Tan Yung Khan from Tan Tock Seng Hospital, Singapore

A little example that Urologists do have more fun! Australia Prostate Cancer Conference 2014, Melbourne, Australia

Weekly shameless selfie

ZARA is heaven on earth, literally!

Get well soon bouquet from my favorite doctor (hint: his picture is somewhere above!)

My fave nephew, Damian Stroobach. Why does Netherland seem so far away???

The view from Mr & Mrs Lee’s place. Costa del Sol, Singapore

Hospitalized, AGAIN! Singapore General Hospital

One of the best poster at Australia Prostate Cancer Conference 2014, Melbourne, Australia

Dr Tan really knows how to win my heart. Mooncakes from Raffles Singapore

Date night with Dr Tan. Catalunya, Singapore

Sunday dinner with Dr Tan (again!). Clifford Pier, Singapore

Only me who could take Prof Umbas for a hike! Fushimi Inari-taisha, Kyoto, Japan

Wise (wo)Man Said…

When you remember that you could die any second, a lot of life’s annoyances become extremely trivial. You stop worrying about money as much, you don’t get pissed at others, you stay non judgmental about others being in your way.

The rule of thumb is: If it won’t matter on my death bed, I’m not going to worry or get upset about it. This really filters out a lot of bull because I try to focus on the truly important things: achievements, experiences, life lessons, and most of all love & family.

Bitterness

A lot of bitterness in life can be laughed about, one of the exceptions is mental abuse. There’s nothing that can justify the existence of mental abuse in every day life, especially in relationships. A lot of people experience this one. Thinking it may be okay, but it just never is. Words are able to cause long-term, progressive trauma. Not to mention self harm. Every insult, no matter how often a person may hear, will increase self-doubts and decrease self-values on people, especially when they already internalize and believe it. Ironically, not all people can build the shelters for themselves and have a support system that can help restore their confidences.

It happens to me, and i guess it happens to some people i know. It’s just tiring to be always told that everything is your fault. It seems like, whatever happens, the ultimate blame is always mine. I’ve been in many situations where some people can feel that it’s fair to tell me that their poorly trained behavior is caused by what I said, or what I did. Their points are always related to the fact that if i had not said what i said, or done what i did, it would never have happened in the first place. I can only emphasize on how unfair it is most of the time by asking myself what have gone wrong, or is it reasonable enough to feel what I mostly feel. Crazy! it’s like any of the judgment I made is miscalculated and can’t be trusted, keeping my mind awake for observations and questions when I can’t feel the strength of my own convictions. Most of my arguments are always denied or either refused.

I found in many relationships where people convince themselves that the things that they do, is for the sake of love. When actually in mental abused relationships, it’s simply for the sake of control. Isn’t it hurtful when someone can be so loving but is often highly critical? showering their partners with affections yet is short on considerations ? When constant efforts to prove endearing love meets with very limited success. Because the partner can either be charmed or dismissive. The mental abuser struggles with his or her own feelings of worthlessness and uses his or her relationship to create a feeling of personal power, at his or her partner’s expense. Furthermore, it will create fear in one side when a person feels like he or she is constantly walking on eggshells, deeply scared of what form of hurtful things that his or her partner can say. This is unhealthy, fear is not a part of loving relationships and it enables the abuser to maintain control over a person.

It’s ironic when people don’t know that mentally abuse relationships may cause gigantic emotional damage to a person who tries to hold the relationship together but at the same time not able to do it because his or her partner is working against her or him. Some people are still struggling for years and years with the anxieties and low self-worth and lack of confidence caused by mental abuse. Women who have suffered mental abuse expect radical change of themselves, and they expect it right away. This is why they often struggle and, not uncommonly, take up with another abusive partner.

it takes a long and gradual process for the recovery of mental abuse, I certainly think that some harsh words direct to me that I have heard would still be locked in the corner of my brain forever. And like other people, I hope someday I can clear this effectively. Because i should never stop moving on, while at the same time preparing myself to free these hands from solid invincible cuffs.